It’s Getting Hot in Here!

Always such drama. And the temps keep rising. We found out just before we went to Jerusalem on Monday that our “host” was unaware of our even being invited – it was a third party invite – so we had to scramble like the dickens to find anything available on the evening and day of a major holiday. Crazy, no? Pressure, no? Luckily, there were none of the usual tens of thousands of tourists that flood the city during a holy time, and we managed to find a gorgeous room right at the Old City Walls for an incredibly cheap price.

I was smart enough to bring our own food from home as EVERYTHING closes around 2pm from markets to transportation on the evening of a holiday or Sabbath. And to bring my all-white clothes, as is customary to wear on Shavuot, the Feast of Weeks or the Giving of the 10 Commandments to Moses at Mt. Sinai.

The next day we finally met up with our friends at the Hurvah Synagogue to hear the Torah reading of the Ten Commandments. Two of the men and their wives had been up all night studying the book of Ruth, the Torah and other subjects. This is traditional for Shavuot. Something I used to do a few years ago – I am now sorry I didn’t attend the women’s study sessions. But as young as they were, they were pretty exhausted when we met.

Shavuot marks the birth and the death of King David. I did not realize this. So we went to David’s tomb, which was pretty packed. The Upper Room where Jesus celebrated the Last Supper is located in the same building just above David. I also had not realized this. It was locked, but the roof access was open, so we went up there to pray and to chat. There were a few people already up there, including a group from Hong Kong, of all places. So a lady we spoke with was kind enough to take a photo of us.

Max came home for the day to babysit our doggie (a spoiled rotten long-haired dachshund, Haggis). Usually I don’t answer my phone on Shabbat or holidays, but the buzzing wouldn’t stop and was driving me nuts. By 9:30 I must have gotten more than 50 buzzes, so I finally checked, just to see if Max needed something, or if, G-d forbid, there was another attack.

It turns out the IDF hit a really high level Hizbulla commander on Sunday night. This combined with the hostage rescue in Gaza and Hizbulla’s solidarity with Hamas, and they were angry, angry, angry. And wanted to teach us a lesson. From Tuesday night through Wednesday there were over 200 rockets/missiles directed at the Upper and Lower Galilee and the Golan Heights. Our friends’ daughter served as an IDF nurse at the hospital in Tsfat. When David, Jocelyn’s dad, picked her up at 9, they were dodging shrapnel the whole way home. Our friends in Korazin, in Migdal, in Tiberias spent most of the morning in their bomb shelters. All the people in the Sea of Galilee hotels who’ve been displaced by the war since October were even more traumatized. Katsrin and other locations in the Golan received direct hits as did Metulla and Kiryat Shmona. Fires caused by incendiary carrying drones from Lebanon were burning in many places. Even towns far south like Cana, Tura’an, Mughar (all Muslim), Tavor (as in Mt Tabor), and the Jezreel Valley were hit.

So it’s been pretty incessant for the last two days. The jets and copters are once again nonstop strafing the skies here – all day and all night. Don’t know if it’s recon, retaliatory or just to let Hizbulla and proxies know we’re still in the game? And the outdoor temps are reaching a sizzling 99*/39* throughout the weekend. I feel so badly for the firefighters and the troops out there in all their protective gear. And we just heard the rumor that the IDF got Nasralla’s brother (head of Hizbulla) in an air strike in Lebanon early this morning. So we expect “the temperatures to climb” even higher this weekend.

I went out early this morning to do some grocery shopping. Every morning I recite Psalm 121 It’s become one of my favorites (YouTube Omer Adam singing ‘Esa Einai,’ the Psalm in Hebrew!!!). “I lift my eyes to the mountains, from whence comes my help. My help comes from the L-rd…” So these days as we’re driving I lift my eyes continually to the next mountain ridge over. Except I’m looking for drones and missiles and interceptions. And trying to figure out where the next community shelter is. The International Council of Christians and Jews has placed 24person concrete bunkers on every other corner. Thank you US givers!! It’s become an interesting life for us….but we still feel safer here than anywhere else. So far only four people have been mildly injured from shrapnel here. I think there are angels up there watching over us.

So we are now beginning to hear ‘the rest of the story’ of how the actual rescue of the four hostages earlier this week went down. It was like a Fauda episode, only it was real life. Undercover elite Israeli spies who spoke fluent Arabic, including women disguised in burkas and hijabs, posed as wealthy Gazans, Hamas associates escaping the IDF in Rafiah, rented a house in the Nuseirat neighborhood. They were there to gather intelligence, to confirm suspicions that Noa Argamani was being held in the vicinity. Super-cool, nu?

They confirmed not only Noa, but the three men down the street being held by the journalist. The spies vacated in undercover cars and on foot on 5 June, and Yamam elite began the planning and training that night. The mission was executed the next morning. The captives were all safely rescued, but complications arose due to heavy fire from the Hamas terrorists embedded in the neighborhood. It seemed every home in the area had someone with a gun, an RPG or grenade. Cmdr. Arnon Zamora, 36, fathers of 2, was killed in the melee. Gaza Health Ministry first said 197, then amended to 436, later revised down to 274 innocent Palestinian civilians were killed. There was no specification of how many of these innocents were actually terrorists.

It’s getting late and I must start food prep and last minute cleaning before Shabbat, but let me leave you with a few bits from the North this morning. All non-necessary clubs, activities, shops, classes, religious or other are canceled in Tsfat, Ma’alot, Nahariyya, Rosh Pina, Sea of Galilee communities (see map). Sirens have sounded in Northern towns all day, although now it seems quiet. The smoke makes me feel like I’m back in Southern California during brushfires season. We are thoroughly prepared and as the Brits say, we ‘keep calm and carry on.’ Like, what else can one do? We had volunteered to go cherry picking in the Golan with friends next week, it now, it looks like that will be canceled. Again, this harvest season, much of the produce is going unpicked. Hopefully soon-

In the meantime, I wish us all a very peaceful and very quiet, and very relaxing weekend. Until next week💙🇮🇱💪🏼🙏🏻🩵 אם ישראל חי The people of Israel live.

The Rescue and the Return. Day 246. War Stories

Despite yesterday being Shabbat, when many people in Israel disconnect their phones, good news has a way of traveling very quickly.

In an operation of combined forces of Shabaq/Shin Bet; Yamam, the police elite counter terrorism unit; Shayetet 13, the Naval commandos; the paratroopers and the IDF armored vehicle units raided two separate residential buildings in Nuzeirat, central Gaza in a surprise mission carried out in broad daylight. The details of this daring operation had been worked out for several weeks requiring exact timing and complex planning. Defense Minister Yoav Gallant reported that it was “one of the most heroic and extraordinary operations I have witnessed over the course of 47 years serving in Israel’s defense.”

Four hostages were rescued alive from Gaza. You might remember seeing footage of the young Noa Argamiani,25,being abducted by a gang of terrorists on a motorcycle into Gaza, the look of abject terror on her face, arms pleading for help. She was being held in a location separate from the other three men who were saved: Shlomi Ziv,40, Andrey Kozlov, 27, and Almog Meir-Jan, age 21. Now they are liberated! Thanks be to G-d and the IDF. They are home.

“Don’t Kill Me!!!”

Helicopters touched down on the beaches under heavy fire, and simultaneously SWAT teams entered the two buildings (family homes in the middle of a busy city, aka refugee camp) separated by hundreds of meters. The two locations were each heavily protected by Hamas in the densely packed neighborhoods. Yet the decision had been made to rescue them from the busy civilian area. Hamas operatives were launching RPGs among the civilians to keep the hostages from being saved. It is horrible to learn that civilians were also killed, but they were being used as literal human shields. One of the IDF elite commandos, Arnon Zamora, was killed in the daring rescue, in what is now known as Operation Arnon. The army managed to eliminate the terrorists without any harm to the four held captive. Several IDF soldiers were lightly to moderately wounded by shrapnel.The entire mission took just under an hour to complete.

Hamas made the choice to locate the captives in very heavily populated civilian areas and worked to blend them in with the civilians. That choice cost many Palestinians their lives. UNWRA, Save the Children, Doctors Without Borders and the Red Crescent all operate in that area. Not once were any of these relief aid workers officially put in touch with the hostages that we yet know of. If they knew anything….or if anyone knew anything about where the hostages were being held, they had a moral duty, if only anonymously to report the information to the IDF or leak it to the internet. How many Palestinians are innocent and how many are complicit?

During the rescue operation, intense gunfire and RPG attacks targeted the elite special ops forces throughout the extraction. The IDF had no choice but to send in ground troops and Air Force backup. The IAF launched several targeted strikes in the area to protect the escapees. According to IDF reports, many Palestinian civilians were killed. Hamas also launched anti-aircraft missiles at Israeli helicopters during that intense time. They were unsuccessful in bringing down any aircraft. However, the escape vehicle was immobilized by heavy fire and ground troops had to transfer the four to a safer vehicle. This was when Cmdr. Zamora was shot.

All four evacuees were helicoptered without needing special assistance and taken to Sheba Medical Center where they were declared to be in good condition. After being medically examined, they were all reunited with their families. But the story does not end here.

Noa arrived home and was reunited with her father. It was his birthday. What a surprise for him, when IDF instructed him to go to Sheba to meet his daughter. Noa was able to fulfill the wish of her dying mother. Her mother has stage four terminal brain cancer, and all she prayed for was to be able to see her daughter before she died. Liora Argamani is from China. She came to study in Israel in 1994, met her husband, Yaakov, converted to Orthodox Judaism, became a citizen and married Yaakov. Liora petitioned the Chinese government to come to the aid of their daughter, but they adamantly refused to assist in any way.

Since her release, we have found out that while captive, Noa Argamani was forbidden to speak any Hebrew, but was taught and could only communicate in Arabic. Noah was held in a cramped closet of an upscale home belonging to an AlJazeera journalist, Abdallah Aljamal, and his father, a doctor at the Shifa Hospital Complex. The father also worked closely with Hamas, the Red Crescent (Red Cross) and UNRWA. The Gaza-based photojournalist often reported from the “March of Return” rioting at the border fence from 2021-2023. Noa told her family that her captors denied her showers, but eventually after months of pleading gave her a bucket of water and some soap. She was only allowed outside to get fresh air once every couple weeks. When she was allowed out, under heavy guard, she was completely covered in a burka so she would not be recognized.

Shlomi Ziv, 40, was working as a security director at the Nova Music Festival on October 7. He was responsible for getting hundreds of young concertgoers out of harm’s way to safety. He was brutally beaten, hogtied and taken hostage to Gaza where he stayed for 245 days. He was brought back home safely to his wife, children and family. It was an amazing reunion.

Almog Meir-Jan’s story is heartbreaking. When he was admitted to Sheba, his mother and grandfather were waiting for him. IDF representatives came to Almog’s father’s apartment to tell him the good news of his son’s rescue and imminent homecoming. There was no answer at the door. His sister, Dina, who had a key, entered the apartment and found Yossi Jan had passed away. His father, Almog’s father, believing he would never see his son again, and not knowing of the rescue operation, had died earlier that morning. They said he died of a broken heart. Dina told reporters that all the stress over repeated hostage release fails contributed to Yossi’s death. He just could not bear it any longer. He died twenty hours prior….

“To all the families of the hostages, we are with you. Please, please, do not break. Try to take care of yourselves too, your own health. Also for them. They will need you when they come back. And you never know. It might be now,” said their family rabbi.

Members of the family spoke with news reporters at a press conference. They said that Almog had kept some sort of special diary or calendar each day while he was being held in captivity. That way he would be able to know certain holidays and mark time. Today is his mother’s birthday…. another great gift.

Little has been written or spoken of the last captive, Andrey Kozlov. All the information I could gather was that he lives in Israel with his brother. His parents from Russia, were notified and landed in Israel (by plane) this morning. The family was reunited with Andrey at Sheba.

Last night our time, many of the major US news networks reported on the entire event. Only they got it completely wrong. They called it a hostage release. I state: There were no negotiations. There was no deal struck with Hamas leaders. There was no hostage release. It was a planned rescue, an intense military operation. There is a huge difference.

This morning, we also heard that President Biden had worked closely with the Israeli government and shared intelligence with them. As far as we know here, or has been reported, there could be nothing further from the truth. However, after taking credit for this, if there is even a shred of truth to the story, is this the intelligence that Biden threatened to hold back if Israel didn’t do what he wanted? Would this have meant the hostages could have been rescued sooner if politics were not played? Just throwing it out there, but we will see, as I have no doubt the matter will be completely exposed-

In the meantime:

WRONG AGAIN!!!!!!

We pray for the safe release of all the other 119 steed held in captivity.

Northern Heat. War Update 6 June, 2024

Temperatures have dramatically risen in the North of Israel over the past two weeks. The heat of summer is here, and despite the absence of reporting over the mainstream media, Iranian proxies are dialing up the heat on Israel militarily.

The Israeli government/IDF were warned by the global community not to enter the last Hamas stronghold, Rafia/Rafah in Southern Gaza. As it turned out, the IDF, after relocating as many Gazan civilians as possible to safer territory in the middle of the Strip, did enter Rafia with surgical precision. They acted upon intelligence gathered by drone surveillance and through interviewing captured Hamas terrorists. Engaging in the most extreme urban warfare known to date, with the use of drones, robotics and trained dogs, the IDF battalion have dismantled intricately and intensely booby trapped buildings and hidden underground shafts and tunnels. Over 70 tunnels were found leading into Egypt. Some of these were large enough for a small truck to fit through. These were used for smuggling weapons in and people (hostages? Hamas leaders?) out. The “Philadelphia Corridor,” aka the border between Gaza and Egypt has been successfully secured.

As soon as Israeli troops entered Rafia, missiles were launched by Hama into central Israel. The Houthis in Yemen targeted several tankers and ships in the Gulf of Adin/Arabian Sea and the Red Sea. Missiles, intercepted by Iron Dome and David’s Sling, were sent towards Eilat, Israel’s southernmost city. Iraqi and Syrian missiles and drones were launched into the Golan Heights. Every day there has been continuous shelling (rockets, missiles, suicide drones, RPGs, antitank artillery) from Hizbulla in Lebanon into the Galilee.

The attacks have increased to now over 100 incursions per day. Missiles have been targeting cities further south and deeper into Israeli territory as far as Akko, Maalot, Karmiel and the Tsfat area. Iron Dome and the IAF have been successful in preventing any of them from reaching their intended targets. Drones, which are very hard to detect by radar, have been carrying incendiary materials in their payloads. This has caused major brushfires near the northern border which have destroyed thousands of dunams (acreage) of vineyards, orchards, farmland, grazing pastureland and forested areas. The environmental damage between the ravaged land and the air pollution is catastrophic.

It has been reported that Northern Israel is the only place where firefighters are “fighting fires while under fire.” They have to wear special protective gear and carry pistols and machine guns, as they are always being shot at by the Hizbulla militias. The brushfires are raging for several reasons:

  • Because of the heat and entrance into the dry season, most of the underbrush has dried out. There is much thicker dried material this year due to the abundance of rains this past winter
  • The airplanes that carry fire-retardant are not able to fly. They are large and slow and fly low to the ground, making them easy targets for RPGs
  • Hizbulla has been sending over suicide drones laden with incendiary materials that explode into fireballs when their payload is released.
  • For the past week, Israel has been experiencing an early summer heat wave with high winds, helping any fire started to easily spread out of control

There are over 73,000 people displaced from their homes near the Lebanese border since 8 October. Included in these are Jewish agricultural kibbutzim, Druze towns, Circassian villages, and a several villages of Orthodox Christian, Maronite Israeli Christians of Lebanese dissent, and Aramean Christians. Many of these Christian communities have fled Islamic persecution in Nazareth and Cana and other formerly Christian areas in Israel (as well as Lebanese Christians who fled to safety as refugees during the 2nd Lebanese war). The Iranian backed militias have stated they will continue to shell the area in order to prevent Israelis from moving back – to whatever is now left of their homes.

Thus far, 14 IDF soldiers have been killed and 10 civilians. Yesterday afternoon, there was a football practice (soccer) in the beautiful Druze town of Hurfeish. The Hizbulla drone dropped its payload onto the field. 11 people were injured, several critically. They were evacuated to nearby Western Galilee Hospital. Have you heard about this attack on innocent civilian youth in your media? If not, why? These were not Jewish people, they were Druze Israeli citizens. It was a calculated, precise strike.

Hizbulla has been improving their weaponry and methods of attack. They have been studying to find out what works and what is most effective. Several military bases have incurred direct hits, including the decommissioning of our intelligence balloon. Over the past 8 months, over 4000 projectiles have been fired upon the North.

Yesterday, Prime Minister Netanyahu visited the area. He issued a statement that Israel is “ prepared for very intense action in the North” in order to restore security and allow the displaced to return home. President Isaac Herzog said that “Israel has been attacked every single day for months by Iran’s proxies in Lebanon, who crudely violate international treaties. The world must wake up and understand that Israel is left with no choice but to defend its citizens.” And Gen. Herzi HaLevi said that any day, Israel will make critical decisions on how and when to respond with full force.

With that said, the international press will begin to fully cover this ongoing story only when Israel fully engages with its neighbors to the North. We have received reliable news from one of the commanders of the Northern Reserve units, that the Christian population of Southern Lebanon have been killed or chased from their homes by the Islamic terrorists. In their place, Islamic terrorists from Pakistan and Afghanistan have taken over their residences and established weapons storage and rocket launching sites. The Israeli Air Force has made surgical strikes on these locations and targeted known terror bases as far north as the Bekaa Valley. So far, it has been a tit for tat. Several high ranking members of Hizbulla have been killed by IAF in targeted air strikes.

We have no way of foretelling what will happen exactly – or when- or with what intensity. We do know that Hizbulla has over 150,000 missiles pointed at us. Everyone I have talked with says something must be done and that there will be an all-out war. It is only a matter of time. Everyone knows this is when Israel will truly stand alone and be forced into ceasefire and peace talks. We pray there will be no kidnappings or repeat of the October Massacre. We pray that as much as Israel has tried to protect innocent Gazan civilians from harm’s way, that she will also have the same respect for her own civilian population.

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Sliding into the Weekend

First, I want to thank you, my dear readers. You are the best!! I collected several heartfelt notes and letters both in my messages and direct email for our neighbors, the Aviv family. They lost their son, a beautiful peaceful windsurfer, who fell while on reserve duty in Gaza. I took them in a lovely ribbon-tied envelope last week. Emmi, Ido’s mom, was overwhelmed to tears. Both Emmi and Mark were absolutely shocked to know that people across the globe stand with them and support Israel. Every single Israeli I’m talking with feels so alone now. We all cried and I hugged both Emmi and Dasha (Ido’s fiancée- the wedding was supposed to be next month). We held each other close for a long while. I’ll be taking them another meal next Thursday, so your letters of comfort and encouragement are still wanted.

Speaking of neighbors: it’s time you met a few of my neighbors. Aryeh and Leah are 94 and 92 years old. They were born here and their passports and documents from pre-1948 label them as Palestinians. They were born under British mandated Palestine and their families have been here since the 1800s. They have been married 73 years. Every evening, Aryeh and Leah go on a long neighborhood walk, which is how we first met them.

Leah loved my hollyhocks, so I gave her some seeds. She gave me a gorgeous red amaryllis. I shared my baby Italian and Native American tomato plants with her. Turns out Aryeh was an engineer just like my husband and he worked for years at Raphael, which is very much like Teledyne where John worked. Leah was a school teacher for decades. They are still avid hikers, and have traveled the world with their children and grandchildren. And…… they, too, are “collectors of found objects.”

It’s been a hobby/obsession of mine to pick things up from our travels and walks: flowers to press, shells from the beach, coral (leading to my arrest here the first year), pinecones, fossils and rocks. My kids used to make fun of me. John has gotten used to it and has become a pretty good “picker” himself. So, last week when we visited our neighbors, we were amazed. Geodes, rocks, fossils – each from a special place with a unique history and a story.

This past weekend was the Jewish holiday of Lag b’Omer, a celebration of the Light of Creation, holy Light, the Light of the World through the Scriptures, which is sometimes compared to fire. It also commemorates the life of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai (Rashbi) and the miracles associated with him. Lag b’Omer is always a huge holiday here in Israel. Whether religious or secular, it’s a fun family festival where huge bonfires are lit. Kids sing and dance around the bonfires and families roast potatoes and eggs and meat wrapped in foil in the hot coals. The ultra religious make a pilgrimage to Mt. Meron, Rashbi’s tomb. This year, because of the war, everything was cancelled. No bonfires. No large gatherings. Especially Meron, which is a closed military area. It’s quite depressing.

Wednesday, John and I decided to drive up to Tsfat, about 30 minutes away. Nestled at the top of a mountain, it’s one of my favorite cities. This is the usually-busy tourist season. We would be having guests and taking them there this time of year. Big Bar Mitzvah and wedding parties would, in normal circumstances, be processing with musical fanfare down the already bustling cobblestones alleyways. Tsfat – sometimes transliterated Safed or Tzfat or Zefat, dates from Biblical times and is one of Israel’s four Holy Cities.

Tsfat was the home of the mystics and kabbalists. Today there are still many ultra Orthodox, but also there the hipsters, the hippies and the artists. Galleries line the streets of the Old City displaying high quality professional artwork like weaving, sculpture, painting, incredible jewelry and various crafts. They are known for their pieces of Judaica. And it’s a great place to shop for presents. We had an engagement party coming up and two weddings, and an anniversary.

The drive up, although always gorgeous scenery-wise, was somber. Much of the area is so close to the border, people are not traveling there. We get drones and missile attacks from Lebanon several times a day. The city was a ghost town. No tourists. Empty streets. Most shops are closed. In Israel, when a person dies, a black and white notice goes up informing the public of who died, where the funeral and where/when house of mourning will be held. This time in Tsfat, posters were plastered throughout the city. Death notices. A sad but also clever way of saying the city and its businesses had died.

Luckily, the candle shop was open. Safed Candles are amazing handmade, all-beeswax candles…for Shabbat, Havdalah, Chanukah and every day use. Plus this business, open for over 50 years, has lots of other beautiful Judaica. And now, because there is no business, everything was on sale. To fulfill a request from my oldest daughter I bought 6 pairs of long golden beeswax tapers for only about $15. She’ll be delighted. Plus I scored a few other colorful handmade gifts. One other gallery was open. We felt so sorry for the shop owner who had four small kids and no income for nearly eight months. So we bought a few items: Roman glass earrings for my daughters, an engagement gift and anniversary gift.

all-beeswax candles…for Shabbat, Havdalah, Chanukah and every day use. Plus this business, open for over 50 years, has lots of other beautiful Judaica. And now, because there is no business, everything was on sale. To fulfill a request from my oldest daughter I bought 6 pairs of long golden beeswax tapers for only about $15. She’ll be delighted. Plus I scored a few other colorful handmade gifts. One other gallery was open. We felt so sorry for the shop owner who had four small kids and no income for nearly eight months. So we bought a few items: Roman glass earrings for my daughters, an engagement gift and anniversary gift.

We stopped to admire the views from Tsfat. Mount Meron, which has been shelled daily (it’s a high point, literally, and a military intelligence installation. The day was so clear, there was no trouble at all seeing directly over the mountains into Lebanon – now all Hizbulla. Thankfully, there was no action, but John couldn’t leave quickly enough.

The highlight of our week happened last night. We were invited to an irusim, an engagement party. John had coached Pri’el in baseball as a kid and now he’s marrying his sweetheart, Bat’El. The cutest couple! But I’d never been to this type of party. The bride is from a Mizrachi Jewish family (Mid Eastern) and they have their own traditions. I was expecting a short, informal religious ritual where a rabbi blesses the newly engaged couple, basically a formal betrothal. I was totally wrong. No ceremony. No religious service.

Once again, most of the women were dressed fairly elegantly. Nope, not me. I kinda stuck out like an American sore thumb… and John in a short sleeve Hawaiian shirt. What were we thinking? We’ve been to funerals and weddings where people wore jeans, but the Mizrachi are different. Or rather we were- the men wore jackets, the women nice dresses. The young friends of Pri’El…. very casual, several in army uniforms.

The bride’s dowry and a gift table was set up for everyone to see. Gifts from the bride’s parents. All beautiful housewares – in white and black and gold. All wrapped beautifully in cellophane with silver or black ribbon. And my rainbow colored gift bag from America that said congratulations with the colorful tissue paper tucked inside. Totally out of place.

The music! Live DJ, drummers, guys singing these melodiously Arabic sounding Hebrew songs. The bride and groom-to-be wore all white. And the food! Hors-doeuvres, salads of the Middle Eastern variety (Baba ganoush, dolma, tabbouleh, humous, lox, pickled fish, cabbage salads, lentil salad….). Then the first course- skewered salmon grilled over a fire. Wow. Then the large platters of meat – kabobs, sausages, brisket, steak pieces). So the party was at 7:30. And I had made dinner and we ate beforehand. Oooopps!

And of course, the dancing. The guys all dancing separately from the girls in circles. The joy. Spontaneous eruptions in different places. And then the young couple and friends sneaking out into the courtyard for a dance together…but never touching. All so pure, and innocent, beautiful and joyful.

After all the food and dance, the father of the bride-to-be presented his future son-in-law with a magnificent gold watch. Rolex??? Then our good friends, the parents of the groom presented Bat’El with gold earrings, a necklace, bracelet and ankle bracelet. It is a tradition in the Mizrachi culture to give gifts of gold.

Then came the next high point. The engaged couple paraded through the room like prince and princess with families behind. Then the bride’s mom and the Kallah instructor (the bride has a special female escort and instructor of the laws of family purity…well save that one for another time) handed a crystal bowl filled with chocolate pudding??? and two candles to Bat’El. They each lit a candle. They then took the bowl of pudding???? with the lite candles and proceeded to wave it in circles over the heads of the engaged couple. So weird. While the chazzan chanted and the people clapped along. PriEl’s friends were dancing on the chairs – it was very very cool.

O.K. So I found out it wasn’t pudding. Or mud. Or a bowl of poo. It was Hannah. And now the ceremony begins as the bride’s mother and grandmother henna’d the palms of the engaged couple. And put a cool seal on to, tying it behind the hand. And next all the women line up to get their hands henna’d too.

By this time, it was getting on to midnight, and the desserts and rest of the festivities were going strong. We were beyond exhausted so John and I took our leave. It was quite the cultural experience- and a lot of fun. But now, preparations for Shabbat begin in earnest, so…more news next week.

Please, if you haven’t already done so, I ask you to write little notes of comfort for and solidarity with the grieving Aviv family. I will present them next Thursday. I can’t tell you how much a little note means to these people. To know they are not alone. Just put them in the comments section. And have a peaceful, relaxing weekend.

The Pendulum Swings: And Time Goes Wild

Writers of the history, stand with me. Look into my eyes and see, People go away but never say goodbye. Someone stole the moon tonight, took my light. Everything is black and white. Who’s the fool who told you boys don’t cry? Ours of hours and powers and flowers. Life is no game for the cowards, And time goes wild. Every day I’m losing my mind, Holding on in this mysterious ride. Dancing in this storm. We’ve got nothing to hide. Take me home and leave the world behind. Baby, promise me that Never Again – I’m still wet from this October Rain. October Rain.

These are the original lyrics from the Israeli (and Eurovision) hit song, Hurricane/October Rain. Our lives are a pendulum. And time goes wild. Emotions swing back and forth at a rapid pace, as the rollercoaster ride I blogged about just last week. As I was doing a web search for the lyrics to October Rain, or any mention of the song for that matter… they were there two days ago!!! The only thing I could find was “Sorry, we ran into an error displaying these results. Please try again.” It’s gone… Luckily I downloaded a live performance of Eden Golan singing the song to the families of the hostages live in Tel Aviv two nights ago.

On a brighter note, and to ‘schep nakhas,’ from the Yiddish to brag: I looked forward so much to going down to Herzliya last night. John and I were going to the Reichman University, Raphael Recanati International School, to attend my son’s awards ceremony. Max was number one in his class (School of Government and Foreign Policy) for all three years with the highest grade point average and lots and lots of hard work. He will be graduating summa cum laude in two weeks.

On the way down we heard the news on the radio: news of the video clip that was just released from October 7. In one of the tunnels in Rafa, the IDF found the usual ammunition, weaponry, intelligence. This time there included video evidence. A large group of beautiful young girls, taken from their IDF base (they were watching the computer screens for border breaches, but the screens had gone black and their communications lines were cut. Some were still asleep in their beds at 6:39am when the Hamas terrorists broke in), they wear badly beaten, bloodied, hog-tied and lined up against a wall. In the video, you can hear the Hamas leader say “these are the ones who can get pregnant. Look at that one. So beautiful.” They are all hauled off at gunpoint into a stolen IDF jeep and taken into Gaza. It’s unbearable to watch.

I cannot even imagine being a parent and being informed that your hostage daughter was essentially a sex slave. And to see the video which is too graphic to reproduce here (you can still see edited versions on YouTube.. I have the long original version,which I really want to show, but will refrain at this time). The parents gave the go ahead for the film to be released in its entirety because it is so important to them for the entire world to know the brutal truth of what is happening. And still NBC News reports, “ New Oct. 7 video appears to show Hamas abducting…” and CNN and the New York Times headlines, “Recently released footage allegedly shows Israeli girls taken into Gaza.” This is absolutely insane! And their versions were highly edited and shortened.

Appears to show???

When we arrived at Reichman, a beautiful table with refreshments – little sandwiches, bourekas, quiches, fruits, juices – had been set up at the event site. It was lovely to see all the parents and friends who had shown up to honor the recipients. And to see several people I knew in the crowd: my good friend’s daughter and her family were there for their best friends; Max’s friends and their families showed up from abroad. It was a lovely reunion. But everywhere were the reminders:

Before the awards were given out, there was a memorial service for the nine soldiers who had been students at RU and killed in the line of duty. 55% of all Reichman University students are in the IDF, in both active duty and in the reserves. It is the most of any Israeli school percentage wise. 4500 of the 8000 who attend classes have or are currently serving in this present war. This is not even to mention alumni. As the service progressed, Jonathan Davis President of the School, learned of the death of a tenth student, just fallen in combat in Gaza. The most poignant for me was Joseph Gitarts. He was a friend of Max’s. They were on the debate team and had traveled through Europe together. Joseph was an honor student and ranked first in his class in Communications. He will be remembered by the memorial garden planted in his honor in the middle of campus. His sister was there to receive his honors.

The rest of the awards program was uneventful, yet inspiring. Students had come to the International School from over 100 countries – from all over the world including Dubai, Saudi Arabia, Africa, South America, India, Taiwan and of course, a Europe and North America. The university slogan is “Live in Israel. Study in English.” The growing curriculum offers both undergraduate and graduate degrees in Business, Psychology, Computer Science, Health and Medical related services (research), Government, Economics and Sustainability.

Max, a Rhodes Finalist, will be attending grad school in the UK next semester

And life goes on. This morning I found out my adorable neighbor and friend, Yanna, is pregnant with her second child. We are so excited. I can’t begin to tell you how many women we know who are pregnant now. Life is a precious gift here in Israel. Children are cherished. Families are strong. It’s a sign of the overall health and optimism of this country.

We continue to pray for all those who are held captive. The US has been stymieing Israel’s ability to fight the war as a true war. They fought us tooth and nail on entering the last Hamas stronghold, Rafah. It was revealed yesterday that the Biden Admin withheld crucial intelligence from the Israeli war cabinet on Rafah. They knew about the over 70 tunnels that led into Egypt. These tunnels served as a means to resupply the terrorists with weapons, missiles and ammunition. They served as a major mode of transportation and escape for the top brass, like Ismail Haniyeh. Do they know anything about the whereabouts of the remaining hostages? Could they have been taken into Egypt?

On a happier note, I’ve gotten several requests for the recipe of my non-dairy cornbread. In a Kosher kitchen, according to Rabbinical (not Scriptural) tradition, dairy and meat cannot be combined in the same meal in any way. So if you keep Kosher, you find ways around- because grilled chicken and BBQ ribs just cry out for cornbread. So here goes:

Non-Dairy “Buttermilk” Cornbread

Ingredients:

  • 2 cups plant-based milk (I use rice milk for this one)
  • 2 TBSP lemon juice
  • 2/3 cup sunflower/safflower oil
  • 2 large/extra large eggs
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 1 1/2 cups cornmeal
  • 2 1/2 cups flour (I use Bob’s Red Mill 1:1 Gluten free)
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1 TBSP baking powder
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • Optional (1 drained can of corn, cut up chili peppers)

Grease a 9X9 baking pan or a muffin tin and set oven to 350*/170*.In a large bowl, add the lemon juice to the plant milk and set aside for a few minutes. The milk might curdle like buttermilk(or not). Stir together dry ingredients. Into the curdled milk, mix in the eggs, oil and sugar. Stir until thoroughly incorporated. Add in the dry ingredients and mix together. If using the canned corn or jalapeños or chilis, now is the time to add them in. Pour into the pan and bake 20-25 minutes until golden brown. Poke with cake tested for doneness. For muffins, the time in the oven is 12-15 minutes. We use the leftovers crumbled in a bowl with maple syrup and milk for breakfast. Heat in the microwave for one minute. It’s delicious!

Surreal Spring

The last few days have been both surreal and restful. It’s truly amazing to what people get accustomed.

I woke up early on Friday morning to work in my rooftop garden. Everything is growing like gangbusters now. We’ve had surprise rains and the weather has turned warm. Harvested carrots. Planted more radishes and lettuces. Did some weeding. And separated the seemingly hundreds of tomatoes that are growing from last year’s dropped fruits. I’ll be distributing them to neighbors all this week.

Every once in a while as I’m up on the balcony I hear a few thunderous booms off in the distance. Antitank artillery from Hizbulla. This followed by helicopters or jets taking off to strike the launch sites. Life continues as usual as children are outside playing without a care. It’s Friday so the neighbor across the street is washing his car. People are out walking their dogs as if nothing is going on just a few miles North.

John and I take decide to go for a hike before it gets too hot or too late in the day. We take the dog with us and the scenery is breathtaking. We have our favorite spot… a paved walking path two miles around the ridge of a mountain overlooking Haifa and the Mediterranean. And the jets strafe the sky overhead. My phone gets continual dings, alerts of rockets launched from Gaza into the South of Israel.

We stop off at our favorite nursery on the way home. Each roundabout before a village is ringed with Israeli flags and bright yellow flags, a reminder of the hostages still held in captivity.

Different communities have set up “bring them home” displays: posters of the hostages; yellow banners, ribbons and kites; empty chairs. It serves as a stark reminder against the beauty of the Galilee spring.

The nursery is incredibly crowded with families loading up on plants. The days are getting longer and there’s more time for planting. Planting gardens. A sign of hope. A symbol of beauty and pride in the neighborhood. As we are each one of us choosing our herbs, flowers, and fruit trees there are more very loud bombs in the distance. It sounds like a crane that has dropped a load of cement blocks. Plumes of smoke rise from the mountain range in the distance and no one gives the slightest jump. It is all way too surreal. And has become way too familiar. If they stop us from living- going to work/school, shopping, meeting friends, doing our normal activities….then they’ve won. Our enemies cannot stop us.

By the time we got home, I had no time to plant the flowers in our front garden, write a blog, prepare dinner and get ready for the Sabbath, so… I saved the blogging for today.

We were supposed to have friends from the middle of the country (Tel Aviv area) for dinner both last Tuesday and last Wednesday, but neither family was able. We were going to have a Tex-Mex American cook-out. I saved the ingredients for when local friends visited on Thursday and for Shabbat dinner.

We had barbecued chicken on the grill, American potato salad, and Texas baked beans in the crockpot. Oh my word! There ain’t no eatin’ like that round these parts. I served a delicious cornbread (made with oil, no dairy) with jalapeño jelly. And pickled corn salad.

We invited our Israeli neighbors over on Friday to share the bounty. But the most different and delicious part for them (besides the Texas ranger cookies I’d baked a ton of ) were the fried green tomatoes!

Leah and Aryeh had never heard of, seen or tried them before and were over the moon!

Fried Green Tomatoes

Serves 4. Pareve (neither meat nor dairy)

Ingredients:

  • 1/3 cup mayonnaise
  • 1/2 fresh squeezed lemon juiced
  • 4 drops Tabasco sauce
  • Sea salt & freshly ground pepper
  • 3/4 cup flour
  • 2 large eggs, beaten
  • 1 cup cornmeal
  • 2 tsp Old Bay Spice Mix
  • 3-4 medium green tomatoes, sliced 1/2 inch thickness (ends off)
  • 1/4 cup vegetable oil (sunflower,etc)

In a small bowl, mix mayo, lemon juice & Tabasco & set aside. In 3 separate shallow dishes place flour, beaten eggs & cornmeal. Season each with the Old Bay. Heat oil in large skillet until shimmery. While oil heating, dip tomato slices first in flour to coat, then egg, then cornmeal. Fry tomatoes in oil working in batches. About 3-4 minutes each side. Transfer to wire rack with paper towels at bottom. Serve while hot with the sauce on top.

(We just got back from taking our dog on a walk as I was writing this….John & I needed a break. As it turns out, two separate neighbors stopped me to ask about that American food… with the tomatoes. And the cornbread and jalapeño jelly…we’ll be having more guests next week!)

This next salad was so so simple to make. Pretty standard fare. Avocados and tomatoes. But the nuts!!!! Took it to a whole higher level! Not only delicious but healthy too.

Tomato Avocado Salad

Serves 4 Pareve (vegan)

Ingredients:

  • 1 large medium ripe avocado
  • 2 cups (1pint) cherry tomatoes
  • 1/3 cup walnuts
  • Extra virgin olive oil
  • Juice of 1 small fresh squeezed lemon lime
  • Sea salt, pepper
  • (Optional 1 1/2 TBSP pumpkin seed oil)

Cube avocado into small chunks and place in bowl. Halve cherry tomatoes and place in bowl. Toast walnuts until golden brown in olive oil or pumpkinseed oil (highly recommend!!!) Let cool and add to salad. Drizzle lime juice & small amount of olive oil over top . Sprinkle with sea salt and cracked black pepper .

The fact there is a war going on just a few miles from us is surreal. It will curb some of our outings this summer, but we will find new places to hike and new villages to visit. Our enemies will not stop us from living. It’s the Israeli spirit-

The Rollercoaster

Taken in 2015… my first Independence Day, re-posted with greeting for 2024

Life in Israel at this time can be likened to a rollercoaster ride. Not just the extreme and arduous uphill climbs with exhilarating views at the top which last for a microsecond before you come crashing down at breakneck speed, but the stomach punching curves and loop-de-loops as well.

The past few days have been just that: attending a funeral at house of mourning of a young soldier followed by a beautiful spring drive with the scenery of the rolling countryside and visit with friends. The day of Remembrance of Holocaust Victims. Being on a major highway when the two minute alarm sounds nationwide. All the cars come to a stop. The people get out. Everyone bows their head in honor and prayer for all those that were murdered in the Shoah and its Middle Eastern counterpart, the Farhud ( yes. It happened throughout the MidEast as well, just without concentration camps). We do not have a television (cable connection), but all the Israeli stations had memorial services and programs dedicated to that near genocide throughout the day last week.

The week following Yom ha Shaoah continues as normal, with the hustle and bustle of daily routine. The weather has been variable as well: blisteringly hot for a day or two followed by a day of heavy humidity, then surprise wind and thunderstorms, lightning and thunder and a half hour of intense pouring rain followed by sunshine. All to happen again.

On Sunday, the radio stations started playing soft, melancholy music again. Songs of love and loss; patriotic hymns; heartfelt Psalms that are all too real these days; songs of promised return of a loved one. Just after dark there is another two minute national siren and the entire country plunges into silence (well, almost the entire country). There are ceremonies to honor all those that have fallen, both in the military and also victims of terror. All day, the television spotlights those who gave their lives defending the country and its citizens, and of those citizens who were murdered by terrorism.

I had planned to go to a sunrise service in our city. It was a prayer and memorial service for the six soldiers in our community that were killed since 7 October. But just as I was leaving, the floodgates of heaven opened up and a torrential rain started that lasted over 40 minutes. It was as if the heavens were crying. Later that day I heard other news from Be’ersheva in the South – a true miracle. From Batsheva Nagel in Be’ersheva:

rsheva:

Unbelievable! On Friday there was a crazy sandstorm that lasted about five minutes. I was standing outside at the park with my three children and I remember thinking it’s gonna be a very windy Shabbos. We ran inside into our apartment, because sand and paper and leaves were just flying everywhere. But then it just stopped. It was really bizarre. Seemed out of the blue because it was such a nice sunny day and all of the moms were out with their kids taking a break. Be’er Sheva hasn’t had a siren in months and the parks were just full of kids. But this huge gust of wind, sand flying everywhere forced everybody back home. About 10 minutes later the red alert siren sounded. Five rockets launched at Be’er Sheva, one landing in a playground that had been full of children just 10 minutes earlier, causing massive damage. The random (HaShem) gust of wind saved all of our lives. We are surrounded by open miracles and the fact of HaShem’s ahava (love) and rachmones (mercy).

I read this on my WhatsApp group of women and my heart is boosted. It is a true miracle that no one was killed or hurt. A few apartments surrounding the park were mildly damaged by shrapnel. Yet the day is somber. There is no noise except for the booming of Hizbulla missiles landing a few miles to the North and IDF jets strafing the sky. Memorial Day is a national holiday where most people are off work. Everyone visits cemeteries to pay respects to those that have been “unalived.” This afternoon, the streets leading to our local cemetery are so packed and there is no parking, you have to walk for nearly a mile, then stand in line for quite awhile just to get it. People are milling about the front entrance. Reserve duty soldiers, both men and women, with their machine guns strapped to their backs. People carrying Israeli flags, teddy bears and other mementos to adorn the graves of the recently buried. The roller coaster is definitely headed downwards.

Coming back home, I ask friends and neighbors what the citywide schedule is for the next 24 hours. Israel, at sunset of Yom ha Zikkaron, Memorial Day, goes straight into Yom haAtzmaut, Independence Day. It’s the 76th anniversary of the State of Israel. Usually there are huge concerts. The biggest music stars and pop groups tour the country going from one city to the next putting on great performances. We usually enjoy 3-4 really great free shows in our local amphitheater that night. This year, there are no concerts. Especially now. No groups larger than 250 are supposed to be in public. No sitting duck targets. Just too risky.

This night is different from all other Independence Days. Usually we enjoy a rousing fireworks show, but due to PTSD and trauma, fireworks displays are now banned in Israel. There used to be great parties and celebrations. This year the night is still. No music blaring from peoples’ backyard parties. The next day, I again wake up to a silent day. Even though the children are off school, there is no loud laughing and playing as kids ride bikes and are running around outside. Many of our friends have expressed fear that on this day in particular, we will be attacked as it is Nakba Day (the Day of Disgrace) for the Muslim population.

Since 1948-

John and I had planned fun backyard barbecues for friends on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. We’ve finally gotten the jungle under control, the flowers are all in bloom, and we’ve uncovered the grill and bought the meats and veg. I was busy making salads when we received the first message. The lovely new couple we just met recently (they’ve just moved here over the past year) are packing up and leaving. Back to the French countryside of Normandy where it is quieter and less risky. They gave their landlord notice, and will be out by this Thursday. Wow. That’s a shock. I hear from our neighbor that most of the regular Yom haAtzmaut activities the city sponsors are not happening. No parades. No block parties with street vendors. No huge activities for the children. Grilling and picnics in the local parks are all that’s going on. The excitement of the day has turned a sharp corner.

The rollercoaster car turns upside down when our friends from the Tel Aviv area decide not to come up. Everyone seems to want to be staying close to home. All people are talking about is the fact that the United States has cut off all arms shipments to Israel. We have been betrayed by our best friends. Individuals around the world are writing in of their support, but it seems to pale in comparison to Israeli’s despair. Will there be enough anti-missile missiles for our Iron Dome? Now that we have been thoroughly isolated, Will other countries perceive Israel as weak and vulnerable and attack us?

Prime Minister Netanyahu makes a speech to the nation saying that although the people of the US have been and will continue to be our friends, we are fully capable of defending ourselves. If we have to, we will go it alone. If the need ever arises we will fight with our fingernails. (Oy vey!) The UN decides to officially recognize Palestine as an official state. This is all a reward to Hamas to keep fighting. Th United States has declared through Gen. Miley and Secretary of State. Of State Blinken that we are not allowed to enter Rafah, the last Hamas stronghold. They say they have intelligence withheld unless there is a ceasefire. The Pentagon knows the whereabouts of Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar. He is not even in Rafah. The UN comes out with updated count of the number of civilians killed since the war started. It has been adjusted and is less than half of what was originally stated. There is no genocide….but the world no longer cares because they have already heard that over 18,000 children were killed and the rollercoaster lurches ahead faster.

As I am writing this (still excited to see some great friends at tomorrow’s planned barbecue), we can hear bombs falling from Hizbulla rocket launches. I get my red alerts on my phone and about 3 minutes later, there is a loud, low thud and the house rumbles a tiny bit. We go on with what we are doing. I’m writing this blog. My husband is on speaker phone going over financial planning with our son. “Did you hear that? Did you feel that? It was up in Meron. In Sasa. In Zion…that’s where the girl that makes my pottery lived.” We continue with our work.

Speaking with a neighbor yesterday, Gil said that those border towns are pretty much unrecognizable now. He has a son and daughter-in-law and their young family who lived up near Shlomi. He said they haven’t been able to get up to see if the house is even standing or in what condition because it’s an active military zone. They have been displaced for six months now, living at the hotel at Kibbutz Ginosar on Lake Kinneret (Sea of Galilee). Gil told us that about 80% of the homes are uninhabitable. The rocket barrages, anti-tank missiles and RPGs have destroyed the border villages with Lebanon.

We have our son’s Dean’s List ceremony next week, a friend’s daughter’s wedding the week after that. Then his graduation. Then a family reunion in Florida. We have a lot to look forward to. No more steep, sudden plunges please. No more unexpected turns. Let me off the rollercoaster for a while and put me on a beautiful carousel…

The Beersheva missile miracle!

Taking the World by Storm

So for today’s post I could write about the constant intrusions and rockets from Hizbulla…. or the way the IDF set up over 450,000 tents and shelters with cots, cookstoves ( no, the innocent Gazans are not reporting to wood and trash fires to cook), water and medical attention. 8 hospitals have been fully staffed with doctors and medical personnel not associated with Hamas. They are for the Gazan civilians in need. There is also a special women’s center set up for maternity and OB/GYN needs. The staff is all women-

I could write about how Israel was not even included in the last round of hostages talks: the one where Hamas accepted a deal. Only they had changed it so radically and by then it was too late as every effort had been made to negotiate. Or how the IDF withdrew troops down to two battalions and put any attempts to enter Rafah on the Egyptian border and clear it of Hamas.

I was going to write about how the IDF did start to invade Rafah on Sunday night with surgical precision; how Hamas responded with rocket barrages into Israel; how in the morning, Hamas rockets landed on the Kerem Shalom Border Crossing. How 5 Israeli soldiers inspecting humanitarian aid shipments were killed, 4 injured, 3 trucks, and over a ton of food marked for entry into Gaza destroyed.

But no. Today I’m writing about a phenomenon that has swept all of Europe…and Israel. When I went to England, everyone was talking about (and my son-in-law’s sister’s husband was a respected commentator) who would win. Here, in Israel it’s reached a fever pitch. And no. It’s not Football/soccer.

It’s Eurovision!!!! Usually, we are not sucked in, but this year. Both my husband and I have been listening to all the entries and the pundits’ and social media influencers’ reviews of the 39 contestants. We listened to all of the first half of the entries Tuesday night. Tonight are the performances of the last 20.

I know Americans have The Voice and American Idol. But this is waaaay bigger. And this year there is major controversy. You see Israel (always a major contender and who has won four times, I believe), was not allowed to join at first because of the Israel-Gaza War. There were protests, petitions and threats to keep Israel out of the competition, but the Eurovision Committee decided at last to let Israel in.

The song to be entered was reviewed by the committee and rejected as being too political and too controversial in the midst of a humanitarian crisis in Gaza. It was titled October Rain. The song was reworked and resubmitted under the name Hurricane, with female vocalist Eden Golan singing. 20 year old Eden has recently immigrated to Israel from Russia, where she had won several vocal competitions. This is her big international debut.

I really was marginally interested until I heard the commentators from other countries’ reactions. Everyone was blown away and moved to absolute tears. Two anti-Israel people completely changed their bias and said they now understand where Israelis are coming from because of 7 October.

“We can bring everything we’re feeling and everything the country is going through in these three minutes,” stated Golan. It is a powerful song of loss and redemption, of strength in tough times. Compared with all the other entries, Eden Golan’s range, her emotion, her dramatic pauses put her in a league way above everyone else. Listen:

https://youtu.be/lJYn09tuPw4?si=pp6vaaUUWpS-NIYU

I’m so deeply moved by this song. We will definitely be watching tonight, hoping the politics are placed aside and that Israel comes across strongly enough to make it to the finals Saturday night. There are a couple countries that give stiff competition, but we shall see how the live performances go. Of course, we will be rooting for Eden Golan!

A Huge Favor to my Readers

Yesterday afternoon I went to the shivah house, the house of mourning for the family of Ido Aviv. He had fallen in Gaza as a result of friendly fire. Of course, the home was packed with people sitting on the large, tiled patio and inside the home in the living room and the dining area. There were soldiers, young people older folk, Orthodox and secular Jewish people, Christians and Druze.

In the entrance to their home was a huge sail from a surfboard. It was Ido’s. He loved the water and was not only an avid sailer, windsurfer and surfboarder, but a surf instructor. The sail had a huge Magen David…the Israeli flag emblazoned upon it. All of his army buddies and his friends signed the sail. Notes that said how much they’d miss him, how much they love him. “Sail into the horizon, my good friend…” the words of a beautiful Hebrew song. And of course, on an easel, photographs of the fallen soldier.

I waited to speak to Emmi, Ido’s mother. I gave her a huge hug, held her tight, and we both cried together. I had known her as an acquaintance and daughter-in law of a woman in the English Speakers Club and charitable group we were in together. I can’t begin to imagine the pain. I sat down and spoke for quite some time to the father of Ido’s fiancée. Oh my G-d. How incredibly sad. They had grown up together, knowing each other since they were three. Her father told me the Aviv’s were their best friends and Ido was like a son to him. And he said, “Ido was loved by everybody. Just look around at all his friends here. They have been here for three days and just keep pouring in. Can you believe a 28 year old could have spread so much happiness? His heart was always for the other person and what he could do for them.”

Dear faithful readers, whether you leave comments on this particular blog or not; whether you leave me emails or personal messages or not. I am calling upon you right now. Please. We, as Israelis are in a fight not only to keep the enemies that surround us at bay, but in a true fight against terrorists and proxies of terrorists. Many of us feel we are alone in this fight. All the nations seem to be lining up again us. Even the United States. All we see is news of riots, arrest warrants for our administration and cries of genocide, atrocities committed and apartheid…all untrue.

So please. A simple favor. Will you please send me either in the comment section below or any way that you can – your love and thanks and support for this grieving family. I will deliver them in just ten days, our Remembrance Day for fallen soldiers. I just know it would mean so much to this family to know they do not stand alone.

I thank you in advance. The parents’ names are Mark and Emmi. They speak English (Mark is from the former South African country of Rhodesia). The Aviv’s have other younger adult sons, but I do not know their names-

May we all have a peaceful and joyous Shabbat and weekend,

Tamar

Mourning & Evening. Day 208

Once again, I had plans to write a completely different post. One day soon, I will answer some of the most pressing questions that I have been receiving. But that is not today.

Yesterday morning, I received news from a friend who first saw it on a Facebook post. The city had also sent out text messages to the residents. Of course, it was announced in the news and spread throughout the army. The family was notified and then the relatives and friends. Another solder had fallen from our city. A 28 year old reservist in the tank division in Gaza.

In the Jewish religion, a body is supposed to be buried within 24 hours. Ido Aviv had been killed on Sunday night, but it was a holiday (last day of Passover/day of complete rest like Shabbat) , so the funeral was set for 3pm Tuesday. My friends and I showed up over an hour early. This was the fifth or sixth funeral since 7October. Forgive me for losing count.

The streets leading up to the cemetery were already lined with people holding Israeli flags, some singing softly in unison. This is typical here. Citizens form a patriotic display on both sides of the streets for the family in honor of the fallen. An hour early and there were already scores of groups gathered in the parking lot, at the entrance to the cemetery and throughout the cemetery itself. I’ve never seen so many soldiers, both regular and reservists, gathered in one place. Young and middle aged men and women.

The tent had been erected graveside, covered with Israeli and battalion flags. Chairs set up for the family. Seven soldiers stood at attention at each end of the gravesite. Within minutes of our getting there, hundreds of people were gathered round. It is so truly moving. I’m on crutches, so a soldier insisted people make room for our party at one side of the barrier just outside the mourning tent. He insisted that I sit down, finding me an extra chair, and made sure I had a bottle of water. Soldiers hand out water bottles to all the people at any kind of event. It’s pretty crazy how considerate these people are.

A large crowd had already gathered 45 minutes before the funeral began.

We stood next to two sisters. I asked them if they knew Ido. They had just heard the news as well from the town. They did not know him personally. Their parents were around somewhere with the two younger siblings, but the girls wanted a front row view. One was 14, the other 17. The older sister was hugging the younger and both were visibly crying. Then their 16 year old brother joined them. It brought back memories of my teenage years and how emotional I became during the Yom Kippur War upon hearing the news of all the fallen soldiers. Soon they, too, will be called up to defend the State of Israel. An older soldier, came over to hug the younger sister and just be there to comfort her. There was absolutely no ulterior motive as he put his arm around her and gave her a packet of tissue.

A group of reservists from Ido’s battalion

Of course the mayor and mayor emeritus showed up along with the head of the regional council and other government officials. Because there were higher ranking military and so many soldiers gathered, the drones in the sky and circling helicopters were incessant. I’m still not used to any of this. I don’t think I’ll ever get accustomed to it.

As the family arrived, I realized I knew them. They are Anglos, and members of our local English Speakers club. I recognized the parents, and know the grandparents. They are also our neighbors, living three streets down from us. This makes the fourth soldier in our neighborhood who has been killed. It is not getting any easier. On the contrary.

The opening Psalms were read. Then the Kaddish prayer, or Mourners’ Prayer, praising, glorifying and extolling G-d above all, for eternity. It is probably the last thing a mourner wants to do, but essential to keep the tie with faith in the Eternal this time.

I did not know Ido Aviv, but he looks like a Biblical hero

The father spoke first. A beautiful eulogy to an oldest son. Incredibly moving. Incredibly tragic. Each member of the family spoke: the grandfathers, the teenage brothers, and then the mother. It is always the eulogy of the mother to her beloved child, a part of her soul that has been ripped away, the hugs she will no longer give or receive, her futile attempt to reconcile that fact that her beloved son sacrificed his own life – her life – for the country. Hearts rip out at this point in the service. To hear the anguish of a mourning mother.

Soldiers, grown men weep. They hug and hold one another. They tenderly wiper the tears from their face, and holding the face of their brother in arms, wipe the tears from his face. I really can’t take it. I push it all deep deep deep down inside me. The bottle of my soul seems like it will soon spill out. His fiancée speaks. They have been together for six years and were planning their wedding, their home, their family. She will not wear the dress she picked out. She will not be escorted to the marriage canopy. There is not a dry eye.

Ido’s friends and army buddies give short eulogies. He loves the sea. He loves to surf. He is a surf instructor. Ido and Dasha had plans to travel to Sri Lanka. His smile. He helped everyone. He was a leader and commander of his troop and everyone loved and respected him. He had an amazing spirit. He loved his country….

Members of his battalion laid floral wreaths at the grave. So many flowers. The grave is completely covered. More Psalms and ElMalay Rakhamim…a prayer to the most merciful G-d was chanted. Kaddish said again. And it was over. We estimated that, as usual there were about 2000 or more present.

Later that night, long after I’ve been sitting up in bed catching up on the days’ news, we read that Ido and another soldier were killed by friendly fire, it seems. The worst news of all. From my (rough) translation of the Hebrew: on the evening of the holiday, following two-sided shooting by our forces and Hamas terrorists in a corridor near the Turkish hospital in the center of the Strip. A tank mounted a charge and was hit by an anti tank missile. Another tank came out of a secure area and returned fire at a building that was outside the boundaries of its sector, where our forces were stationed. Ido and Kalkidan (another IDF soldier) fell, and another fighter was seriously wounded.

This morning eight friends and my son sent me the same post. Tomorrow, my friend and I will go to the house of the mourning family to pay our respects. In Judaism, the family mourns for seven days, sitting on the floor or on low chairs receiving guests. The army sets up a large tent outside on the street and provides chairs and tables of refreshments. There will be photographs from the life of the fallen soldier. People arrive with foods a which will be set up for those coming to pay their respects. Usually, when a soldiers dies, hundreds and hundreds of people come each night to pay their respects to the family. They come from all over the country. Not just Jewish people, but Druze and Christians and others who are there to comfort and offer support. I’ve never ever seen anything like this anywhere else. Living in Israel has been the most beautiful, most connected experience. And the most heartbreaking-